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I’M OK

I’ve been reflecting a lot about my Blog post yesterday, “Diagnosis Part 5: MRI”.

It helped so much to write that. I needed to really get that out. I needed to tell the whole world about my experience. It freed me a lot. I felt lighter after I wrote it and I’ve been breathing easier ever since.

And what I’ve become aware of even more today is something so enlightening and positive.

I’M OK.

I, Nahleen Virginia Blake (yes that’s my Middle Name), am OK. Oh my goodness! I’m OK. If you had told me that night of my first MRI that over 10 years from that whole experience I’d say I was OK I’d have pushed you away. I’d have ignored you. I wouldn’t have believed you. I probably would’ve gotten sick to my stomach.

No Way! I was so terrified about my life, about my future, about my body and everything that I had no control over. I “HAD CONTROL” of my life back then…I thought. I was on my path. Full speed ahead! Get out of my way. I’m following my dream. Actually…I’m chasing my dream. It can’t get away. My grip is so tight and I won’t let go. Keep on going and going and going and going. Well, guess what Energizer Bunny? You can’t keep going either no matter what those commercials say. Sorry but you run out of Oomph too!

Throughout these 10 plus years since I have been told by so many people older than me that I am too young to think the way I do. That I am too young to go through what I’ve gone through. That I should be going through all of this illness and crap when I’m older. Well, let me tell you all, I HAVE NO CONTROL AND I NEVER HAVE. I was powerless over what was happening in my body and my mind was bound to change. My life was bound to change! My outlook was bound to change! Change change change! Life is about change!

How could all of that not change?

I couldn’t work 2 jobs anymore. That was crazy to start with. I couldn’t be a Production Assistant for 12 hour days on my precious weekends anymore.  I couldn’t couldn’t with the couldn’ts. Suddenly my life came to a halt.

SORT OF.

I had to rest more.

I’M SORRY. DID I SAY REST?

What is REST? Well, that means I STOP all I’m doing to the best of my ability and sit my butt down. I can lay down on the bed. I get some quiet. I learn how to meditate. If I can’t stop I at least SLOW DOWN. Yes, slower is OK. Really. There are so many ways to rest. Forcing everything to a point of a racing heart is NOT RESTING. Nope. Everything in Fast Forward is not resting.

Actually, my life is usually better than OK but I didn’t know that until 8 years later when I was diagnosed with a second disease of lupus. A…SECOND…DISEASE……..OF…LUPUS….Now THAT ONE KICKED ME OFF MY FEET AND STRAIGHT ONTO MY BUTT and there was no getting up.

No question.

I hit a wall so hard it’s a wonder I even survived and I am NOT EXAGGERATING.

And my choices were simple yet so complicated for someone like me to understand. You see, simple is not simple. It can’t just be that pretty much everything in my life has to STOP AND SLOW DOWN and not just a few things here and there. This affected EVERYTHING.

I HAD TO CHANGE.

MY LIFE HAD TO CHANGE AND FAST.

I FELT I HAD NO CHOICE.

See, I used to say I had no choice. I had to stop working…for now…until further notice…maybe…no really…I still wasn’t feeling up to it months later…symptoms just kept kicking my butt…I needed Tender Loving Care from everyone but especially from ME. I could’ve gone back to work. Right. OK. And run around and been in an environment that was so toxic for me that I would’ve ended up in the hospital the next time. Sounds like a great quality of life.

It was ME. I had to change MY LIFE.

I had to take care of ME.

Why was that so hard? Why IS that so hard?

I know it’s worth it. I know I’m worth it. And it’s a work in progress…It really is about Quality of Life, not Quantity.

But when I focus on TLC and turning the attention of my TLC to me my life gets better. My life looks different, feels different, and even smells different. There are flowers to smell and see everywhere here in LA. There are trees with leaves that blow in the breeze. That is one of the most lovely sounds I have ever heard. There are clouds. Oh I have always loved clouds ever since I was a little kid. Give me a cloud to look at and I am thrilled. Everything else goes away. There is an ocean that keeps me Present when I can see it. Even driving by it changes my mood if I can see it. I am in the moment. Do you know how beautiful the moment is? Have you been able to feel your breath as you look at the vastness and the colors of the ocean as the sky and the light of the sun reflect on the ocean? Have you watched a seagull float along in the sea breeze? Even watching other people in the water puts a smile on my face.

Smiling. I do that so much more than I used to. I used to be told all the time to smile when I was in my 20s before the MS diagnosis. I had no idea I wasn’t smiling. I was so dang busy pushing and pulling and forcing and going that I forgot to smile. I had a frown on my face I was so intense. It’s a wonder I had any friends, family, work colleagues or anyone else who wanted to be in my life.

But somewhere along the way I forgot me. I still do sometimes and I am constantly working on bringing ME back.

And bringing my focus back to me, I see the shining emerald green glimpse of hummingbird. I see the butterfly off in the distance. I find myself sitting in my car listening to my favorite song and not getting out until I’ve finished belting it out to myself. And back to smiling because I find it so powerful. Smiling at others? Smiling at others and watching them smile back. It is so rare now for me not to connect with others with a smile. I have met some of the best people in the grocery store. We are all just people living our lives trying to get by. I have had lovely conversations in hospital building elevators with others about colors and clothing and my Muppet bag/purse.

I have sat next to some wonderful people while sitting in doctor waiting rooms. See doctor waiting rooms are tricky for me. I still can’t stand going to the doctor. In fact, I think in some ways it’s worse now because I have so much chronic illness doctor’s office visit fatigue if that makes any sense. I am sooooo done seeing so many doctors even though the appointments are currently usually further apart. Usually. But those waiting rooms can be so grueling and talking to others helps. If I don’t I feel closed off and not grounded. I find myself more nervous about the appointment than I was before. I find myself noticing that so many people are not feeling well, that they’re older and looking at me wondering why I’m there at whatever Specialist Doctor I happen to be at. It’s rough.

I have gotten to know the office staff at almost every doctor. I now have at least 2 friends at the Pharmacy I go to and I’ve had coffee with one of them. They are people too. Great gals actually. I have learned that it’s really not a problem usually to stand in line at a store. Why not look around? Why not watch a little girl or boy with their Mom and see what they see as they look around? Getting annoyed and irritated is probably going to make me feel worse. Life does not have to be lived so fast.

And what about finding myself through writing? I think I’ve always been a writer. I have written off and on all my life. This Blog has helped me get through what was a huge writer’s block for too many years. I need to write. It is part of my Being. Even if I write the hardest and deepest thoughts and words I still come out of it smiling. I wrote! I expressed myself!

And then there’s meditation, guided imagery, spiritual support groups, coffee groups, texts with friends, Facebook, Twitter, the online community in general, the longer conversations I get to have with people on the phone if I feel up to it (this one is still hard for me because being social is one of my favorite things but it also tires me out very quickly and as I get better I am more able to talk and maybe even visit but it’s still a one day at a time thing), the exploring of neighborhoods as I walk every day (by the way it’s been over 450 days since I started taking a walk every day!) I never know where I’ll end up. I have found the greatest local businesses that way. Some of the best coffee shops are in Santa Monica. I wouldn’t have known that before.

And sitting on my balcony especially at night is one of my favoritest things to do ever. I sit back in my lounge chair and look at the sky, look at my iPad (feel so fortunate and lucky to have such a supportive husband who bought me an iPad even before my lupus diagnosis and it has changed my life–the online world is a much more accessible place because sitting at the computer with the big screen can be hard for me for so many reasons), talk to my plants, and I can even have plants that I love and adore! And let me tell you, they respond so much better when I talk to them and give them love.

I have found faith and hope during these slower times. During these quiet times it has not all been fabulous. As they say every rose has its thorns and that is so true. There is beauty in life everywhere. There is also struggling, and excruciating feelings, and trudging, and crying, and anger, and memories, and reliving traumas, and temper tantrums, and grieving, and missing the old days when I thought my life was something else, and when I was younger before my MS diagnosis, and wanting to punch things and having very very hard times and hard days. I find I’m also having an identity crisis. Who am I? Who is Nahleen with MS and lupus? Will I ever work again? What will I do? Which idea am I going to pursue? Where is my life leading? Is this my life? I can’t live my life as someone who is identified only as my illnesses but it is a major challenge to break away from that when my life is lived in doctor’s offices talking about everything that’s still wrong with me, even talking about those few things that are getting better is still on the subject, just being there reminds me too much about my reality, having to prove my Disability to other entities who are trying to not help me, dealing with insurance issues, reliving the past for new doctors, taking over 4 hours to get going before I feel human in the morning, taking my medications, keeping up with my medications, keeping track of symptoms and the severity of them and watching for patterns, exercising so I can keep functioning and I could go on. Please let my life be more than that.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?

I’M OK.

I’m better than I was 10 years ago even before my MS diagnosis. I see the world in front of me more. I see the world. I am in the world. I am not on the outside looking in. I am NOT living the life I want to live on a whole just yet but isn’t that normal? I want to live a life WITHOUT MS and lupus but that is a lot to ask right now and to be honest it pisses me off and I can feel the rage right now even as I write this. But right now I’m in a better wave. I don’t know how long it will last or if it’s the new norm. Life is always happening and it is always in session. I have learned that time and time again. And I don’t know how I’m going to feel the next moment from when I write this sentence but for now I’ll take the feeling that life is a bit easier. How cool is that? I’m a bit more at ease. What a gift.

But it is not a life to be rushed through. Time goes by too fast. I was a tied up ball of knots rushing around plowing my way to the next goal in my mid-20s thinking I would someday rule the world, but it was never good enough. And in the past few days, life is good enough. Sure, I want more money, I want a bigger place to live in, I want that dent out of my car that someone so nicely put in there at a time I wasn’t around to see it happen, I want to be thinner, I want to feel so good that I am frolicking and skipping down the street and I don’t ever want bad things or hard things ever to happen again.

But that’s not real.

And I’M OK.

And the best part is there are parts of my life that are so very happy. I am happy with my husband and my Cleo Kitty. Corey keeps me laughing and on my toes. He is so incredibly supportive and always by my side. We are the best team I know. Cleo Kitty and I are best friends. We have been there for each other during each of our health problems for the past 3 years. She cuddles and plays and needs to eat and she demands her pets.

I also have a roof over my head, wonderful people in my life who don’t let me isolate even for one minute and they are from all parts of my life, 2 cars that run well, air conditioning that usually works, clothes to wear, food to eat, a bed to sleep on even if the mattress is so old there are hills and valleys in it and the list is endless.

I have a full life. A pretty darn good life. It can be very hard. And sometimes it can be easy but those times seem rare. Perhaps that will change. I don’t know. What I do know is that I breathe easier. I’m not nearly as tense. I feel much better than I did last year in July 2012 (and it doesn’t mean I am all better but I will take whatever I can get), I smile and giggle more than I frown and grumble. My bad days aren’t nearly as bad and intense and I recover quicker. And this is all just for today.

That is all I have. That is all WE have.

And that is OK.

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Music Friday!

I have been so reflective lately and I think this song fits my mood.

The song and video are by a group named Elbow.  Yes, Elbow is their name.  They have been around for years and I JUST discovered them last year when I was watching the Itunes Music Festival on my IPad.  I love music and I’m always looking for new artists.  I watched this top notch group and concert and absolutely fell in love with these guys.  They not only know how to throw a classy show, but they are funny, friendly and talented.

Their song, “Build a Rocket Boys” is definitely my favorite from them and I can’t stop singing it since I heard it the first time I saw them at that Itunes Music Festival months ago.  Every time I hear it I am brought back to the good times (and even maybe not so good times) of the past and you know, they have NOTHING to do with rockets…and that doesn’t matter.  The song is so personal, thought provoking and so emotional and I can really feel it.

So here you go.  I hope you like it as much as I do.

Does it bring you back to any time in your life?  If so, when?  I’d love to hear your stories.

Before I go, I’d like to take some time to welcome my New Followers!  THANK YOU!  To have you join me on my journey is an honor.  To have all of you with me means so much to me.  Feel free to spread the word about my Blog any time.  The more the merrier.  I’d love it too if you want to comment on any post please do and you can also find my email address on my “About Me” page.

Take care and have a wonderful weekend!

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OH THE FUN MEDICAL TESTS I GET TO HAVE!

Just posted this on Facebook as my status and thought it was a GREAT BLOG RANT FOR TODAY!  Look at what I get to do tomorrow…GOOD TIMES!
“So I have to do a strange test first thing tomorrow morning for at least 3 hours called the Hydrogen Breathing Test. They’re going to be giving me things to ingest (great–something tells me it won’t be yummy) and have me blow into a balloon-like thingie to see how my digestive system reacts… Oh goody. Something tells me I may not be feeling too good from this. And I’ve also been doing a strange type of prep diet for it that makes me feel both full and hungry at the same time. Glad to be able to eat but so bizarre. Leave it to me to have to do weird tests and do weird things to see if I can find out what’s going on in my body. Soooo, I’ll be bringing books and music and posting a lot on FB I’m sure with my phone even though they don’t have WiFi–which reminds me to bring a charger… So that means I can’t really watch anything because my IPad doesn’t have WiFi but oh well. I’m told I’ll be doing this test with a small group of people. I hope they’re OK to hang out with that long or it could be even more fun! So yeah. That’s what I’ve been preparing for all week. Please if you can, send along some good vibes. I can’t eat or drink ANYTHING after 8:30pm tonight because I need 12 hours of no ingestion and the tests starts at 8:30am. NO WATER?! BUT I LIKE WATER! I’m ALLOWED to brush my teeth and rinse thoroughly in the morning BUT THAT IS IT. Sooooo, I won’t be able to eat or take any meds (but WHAT THEY GIVE ME–ACK!) till at least 12pm tomorrow if I’m lucky…OY!!! NEEDLESS TO SAY, I HAVE NOTHING ELSE PLANNED AFTER THE TEST EXCEPT TRYING TO EAT IF MY BELLY IS NOT TOO MESSED UP FROM WHAT THEY’VE GIVEN ME AND TAKING MY MEDS SO I CAN FEEL MORE LIKE ME AGAIN…OH AND RESTING SHOULD BE GOOD TOO…Will be glad when it’s over that’s for sure.—And this is all happening when my digestive system is starting to settle down again…OF COURSE! TIMING IS EVERYTHING RIGHT!?”
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It’s An ’80s Kinda Day Part 23!

Rad!  I’m totally back with my ’80s Blog!  That is so wicked cool!

Since it’s been awhile, I’m only going to start out slow again.  I’ll be featuring just one this time.  Feel free to post more if you’d like.

SO WHO’S IT GONNA BE???

1. Like a Surgeon By: Weird Al Yankovic

OK so who doesn’t LOVE Weird Al Yankovic?  I know I do.  How can we ever forget this masterpiece?  We ALLLL knew he was mocking Madonna’s “Like a Virgin” and it became a classic ’80s hit!  Must be awesome to make a career out of mocking other famous singers, their music and videos.  I remember going to see him in concert in my 20s at the Hampton Beach Casino in New Hampshire with a group of friends just for fun.  I thought, sure why not.  HILARIOUS AND AWESOME!  The guy is a true genius and an absolutely talented performer.  Talk about knowing how to entertain.  I had sooooo much fun at that concert and I was so surprised and pleasantly taken off guard by how great his show was.  I highly recommend seeing one of his concerts if you ever get the chance.

So we start off with nice red Ked-like sneakers.  Oh there he is.  The funny looking guy with lots of curly hair, dorky mustache and glasses.  Doesn’t even look like a surgeon really even though he supposedly has a doctor’s white coat on and a stethoscope.  Nicely made “I.C.U.” sign probably made by a Production Assistant because all ICU signs look that way.  I love how all kinds of doctors are being called all at once.  And this “surgeon” just looks annoyed that he had to attend to someone who sounds like he died.  Poor guy.  No one’s attending to him but Weird Al.  Great.  And he looks pretty dead.  Nice “dead” make up.  What the heck?  He doesn’t know what to do?  So he bangs the machine to get it to work?  Awesome.  Sure that will make the guy undead.  HA!  So then he bangs on the guy and the machine stops the alarm…WHAT THE?!  Oh if only it were that easy.  He got the guy living again.  So then we hear the beat of his heart with the beat of the song as it starts…

I LOVE IT!  Even his voice has a high pitch a bit like Madonna’s.  Nice.  RANDOM!  Why is there a lion walking through????  EEEWWWW!  That guy’s washing his foot in the sink!  And now someone’s washing pans too????  So silly.  Love it.  AAACCKKK!  Scary knives!  What if that’s what surgeons really use????  Now there’s a blow torch?  HELP!  SCARY!  Why does he look like a Muppet with that face mask on?  And now the lion again?  Yeah it’s so normal to see lions in hospitals.  Absolutely.  Always.  Um.  He’s not taking a saw to me…Fakest looking heart ever.  And we even hear the heart’s sloppy slimy noise as it slips out of his grasp.  And this is his first time?  Is that what he’s singing?  OH NO!  What the?  A yucky looking sandwich in the operating room he’s gonna eat?  Great.  Now someone’s blowing on an eye.  No germs there.  And the guy’s AWAKE??!!!  Scary drill!  Cracking up!  There’s a bullseye on his chest.  I’ve always wondered how surgeons really do it.  This must be the way.

I don’t know that I ever really listened to the words of this song.  Very funny.  Ha!  There’s a fake Madonna in the corner.  Nice.  Love the most fake looking brain EVER.  And the patient’s reading a paper.  Riiiight.  Who wants to bet it’d be an IPad now or something?  And he’s TAKING NUMBERS like a deli.  Ha ha!  This is too much.  WHAT THE?!  Why is there a football player in the operating room????  ACK!  Look at what he’s taking out of this guy’s body?  Maybe that’s the issue with all of our bodies.  We have all these items in our bodies.  Would make a lot of sense.  Love how creative this is.  A LIVE BUNNY?!  Poor bunny!  Great line, “My patients die before they can pay”…so he takes money out of his body.  Nice.  Good point.  Nice video effects…love those ’80s effects.  And now he’s playing all sexy.  This is too much.  Sooo funny and so silly.  And of course his waving arms whack someone he’s walking by.  And of course I laughed.  Oldest joke in the book and I still laughed.  Is it me or is it just wrong to see Weird Al be “all sexy-like”????  Kinda gets me all creepy crawly…NICE.  The beep is back in the song as it’s ending.  Nice little detail.

OK now this is too much.  Now we’re not even in the hospital and we’re in some studio against all white, he’s wearing some black netted thing and dancing with two others trying to be all sexy.  OH dear.  I’m scared to keep watching…  And of course the “guy” I’m guessing flatlines again…

Silly silly Weird Al.  Love that guy.  Love that he’s still working too.

Anyone wanna post some fun ’80s of their own?  I’d love to see them!  So happy to be back!

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